Self-Soothing – YMMP009

GO TO TIME OUT!

   We send our children to “time out” when they’re misbehaving. It’s a chance for them to think about what they did wrong.

We need to take a voluntary time out when our arguments get heated. We need to disengage, walk away and regroup in the middle of a spat. Come back when we’ve calmed down.

When we get “flooded,” the best thing we can do is to “self-soothe” for 20 or more minutes.

Listen to today’s episode to make sure you don’t fall into the trap of a lose-lose argument.

“Practice Self-Soothing” is on the Manage Conflict rung of the Sound Relationship House and is the topic for today.

Fondness and Admiration – YMMP003

Do you want to know how to eliminate the threat of an affair? Want to be in a relationship where the D-word won’t surface? (The D-word = divorce) Give me 12 minutes of your time and you’ll see what I mean.

Do you like your spouse? How do you show it?

Are you fond of your spouse?  Do you admire your spouse?

Today we will talk about why it’s important to honor, respect and be kind to your spouse. Some of us take it for granted, but did you know that if you are fond of your spouse and show admiration, then the likelihood of contempt or an affair is DRASTICALLY reduced?

It takes conscious effort to set aside the flaws, annoyances and teeny, tiny criticisms of our beloved, but it can make or break your marriage over the long haul.

Please, no eye-rolling of public criticisms of your spouse. No one benefits.