4 Gifts of Love

Additional Resources to Accompany Your Marriage Matters Podcast Episode 27: Four Gifts of Love.
The 4 Gifts of Love:
(1) The gift of CARE: I promise to meet your most important emotional needs.
(2) The gift of PROTECTION: I promise to avoid being the cause of your unhappiness.
(3) The gift of HONESTY: I promise to be honest with you.
(4) The gift of TIME: I promise to take time to give you my undivided attention.
For current and comprehensive information, please visit www.FourGiftsofLove.org. The following “Agreements” are based on the book “The Four Gifts of Love: Preparing for Marriage that Will Last a Lifetime,” by Dr. Willard Harley.

AGREEMENT TO OVERCOME LOVE BUSTERS*
This Agreement is made this___________ day of___________________ between _________________ and _____________________ where it is mutually agreed:
(husband’s name)___________________________ will learn to avoid the following Love Busters:
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(wife’s name)________________________________will learn to avoid the following Love Busters:
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In witness whereof the parties hereto have signed this agreement on the day and year first above written:
(his signature)________________________________ (her signature)_____________________________

*Examples of Love Busters: angry outbursts, disrespectful judgments, annoying behavior, selfish demands, and dishonesty.

​AGREEMENT TO MEET THE MOST IMPORTANT EMOTIONAL NEEDS*
This Agreement is made this___________ day of___________________ between _________________ and _____________________ where it is mutually agreed:
(husband’s name)___________________________ will learn to meet the following emotional needs of
(wife’s name)_______________________________:
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(wife’s name)________________________________will learn to meet the following emotional needs of
(husband’s name)_____________________________:
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In witness whereof the parties hereto have signed this agreement on the day and year first above written:
(his signature)________________________________ (her signature)_____________________________

*Examples of Emotional Needs: affection, sexual fulfillment, conversation, recreational companionship, honesty and openness, physical attractiveness, domestic support, financial support, family commitment, admiration.