“Blueprint for a Lasting Marriage: How to Create Your Happily Ever After with More Intention, Less Work,” by Lesli Doares. A great book to give as a gift to engaged couples or newly married couples, Doares outlines 5 steps in creating a blueprint or plan for a marriage that will flourish if you do a few basic things.
How do we create a great marriage? That’s the topic for today. When two people get married, they enter a process of creating a whole new relationship. What does it take? How do you do that? Does it naturally happen? Listen to today’s episode to learn two ways or shortcuts to creating a great marriage.
If you are successful in most parts of your life, will you be successful in your marriage? Do you know what you want and are you working toward sharing your talents with the world? Knowing what you want not only effects you, but others. How does your success and happiness or lack of success and happiness effect your spouse and family? How do you deal with challenges and differences in your relationship?
How can differences strengthen a marriage? That’s the focus of today’s episode.
Happiness. We all want it. What is it and how do we go about building a happy marriage? Today’s episode is the first in a series about how to have a happy marriage.
Marriage Therapist and Author Dr. John Gottman has identified 4 kinds of negativity, if allowed to grow and fester, would be extremely lethal to a relationship: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. Listen to today’s podcast where we talk about the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. This concludes the Middle Years of Marriage Series. Remember to adopt the right attitude within. Practice gratitude, forgiveness and charity and your spaceship will soar to great heights.
What does your spouse do that bothers you? Today’s show might surprise you as we focus on YOU rather than what you think your spouse does that irritates you. Where do these irritations originate? What is the source of these irritations? What bothered you when you first got married and no longer bothers you? Why did this change? What did you do? We’re going to dissect irritations and how you can manage them. The first point we need to make is that irritations come in many forms and intensities. Irritations have to do with your expectations.
Do’s and Don’ts for the Middle Years and Beyond: Don’t be a complainer. Don’t neglect each other. Don’t deceive or lie. Don’t put excessive energy into your past or future and instead, live in the present – that’s all we’ve got. Do make your home a sanctuary, speak kindly to each other, bring pleasure to your partner, cultivate a proper temper and feed the heart.
Middle Age Malaise doesn’t have to creep into your marriage if you know what to look for and how to address important areas of your relationship. What are crucial things to look for? Boredom, neglecting the concept of LOVE MAPS – or sharing your inner world with your spouse, the importance of having a passion and shared goals. Today’s episode is the first in a 4-part series on the Middle Years of Marriage.
“What therefore God has joined together, let no man put asunder.” (Matthew 19:4-6). A happy marriage usually contains happy people, better physical and mental health and a higher level of wealth. Author Steve Bollman (“The Choice Wine: 7 Steps to a Superabundant Marriage”) says if you follow the 7 steps, your marriage will have a foretaste of paradise. The last chapter ties everything together and Bollman explains how the steps parallel the holy family. He says God wished to give couples the superabundant joy that was experienced by man and woman in paradise. He doesn’t want us to have sufficiency, but superabundance – to truly thrive. Here are the 7 steps: honor your wedding vows, use money for other people, give God some of your time, set your mind on things above, find God in yourself, find God in other people, make it easy to be good and hard to be bad.